Creating a ruckus, making loud noise
Fleeting, lasting, deep, light, amusing, thought-provoking... All that I encounter.
Tuesday, June 3, 2025
Rising with the Falls
Creating a ruckus, making loud noise
Thursday, May 1, 2025
The Discovering
Flooded out, hemmed in from all sides
Health, wealth, and people helplessly standing by
No more, no more, I begged
For how long will this go on, I cried
I flaunted all that I had,
I surrendered, throwing up my hands
Power, fame, friends, all deserted me
Even my shadow played hide and seek
My fortunes waned and waxed like the moon
Joys and sorrows alternated, leaving me in a swoon
Like the tide rising high and hitting the trough
My moods swung up and down on a bough
Fighting the shackles I tore ahead,
Drifting rudderless, I felt a dread
Neither here, nor there, I was
And yet everywhere scattered my thoughts
The balance sheet of life showed
There was much longer to go
The good times, yes, but the bad times too?
Will this ever end, I ask you!
Frustrated, I refuse to engage
Watching life go by, like a play
Strange that things still happen
And there is no agony that maddens
Like floating in water I go with the flow
And feel the return of my inner glow
Guided as it were into new journeys
Finding nuggets that shine even without seeking
What I would have grabbed now comes freely
For the joy is in the journey, not in acquiring
With hurdles or free, the path for me is born
To enjoy the flowers along with the thorns
There are no shackles but in the mind
Freedom that waits for me to find
Knowing this, I am at peace
Doing what must be done, and not to please.
Friday, April 18, 2025
The Balcony
But strangely, it is often met with annoyance
Neglected and forgotten, considered a waste of space
Shut out or sealed, converted into an enclosed niche
Even large ones are just a hoax
Finding best use for hanging clothes to dry
Or to house pots and plants myriad
Too much sun, no sights that give pleasure
Mosquitos galore, or just no time for leisure
Excuses many, result just one
Empty space hanging, used by almost none
No promise of memories, no friends lounging
Balustrades, that no hands are holding
Taking up precious real estate, some complain
And even the ones who love it stay away
Oh there, someone relaxing with a book
Finding in the balcony, a cosy nook
A cup of tea, eyes filled with dreams
Distracted by clouds, fanned by gentle breeze
Pausing mid-run to stand and stare
In a space that is a worthy spare.
Thursday, April 10, 2025
In Pursuit of Happiness
The toys in the shop
Beckoned me to them
Promising me worlds
Unseen at home
Tantrums aplenty
Heartburns even more
I sought happiness
In things with allure
Toys changed form
Replacing what had just gone
And yet there was something more
That seemed beyond my zone
With wheels on my feet
I ran helter-skelter
Gathering and amassing
The more, the better
And I sought for things
Better and better!
And yet I felt
No contentment ever
Why should I?
When I deserve the best
And for things choicest
Continued my quest
Never a pause
Never a thought
Eyes seeking
Not shutting even after I got
I pause and look back
I think in wonder
Did I really journey
On those paths yonder?
Holding them to me
I don't remember
Did they make me happy?
I ask and ponder
I close my eyes
Let my mind wander
Searching keenly
For an answer
And then I sink
Into a state of bliss
Joyful and fresh
Like the first kiss
Nothing, no thing
In silence golden
Just me and myself
To nothing beholden
I find my fount
Sweet and everlasting
A tap I tap
To quench my thirsting
Nectar flows through my veins
I reach my end and thank my gains
Knowing this, I fly free
In pure happiness and unbridled glee.
Tuesday, March 25, 2025
Pati, Patni aur Woh - My GPS Woes
The year was probably 2008/09, when GPS started becoming a part of the mobile phones. My husband, quick to embrace new technology, installed it immediately and we set out on a road trip. I think to Chettinad, with a stop-over at Trichy. If memory serves me right, we first went to Trichy, rested, and then headed for the Srirangam temple. I have a cousin who lives nearby, so we decided to visit her too.
We started from the hotel in Trichy with the GPS guiding us. We were on a perfectly good highway, doing good speed, when SHE - the GPS, that is - told us to take a right turn. We were baffled, but technology should be infallible, right? So a right we took, and went through narrow roads, hit several roadblocks, and then with many turns and twists, rejoined that same highway!
Now, I view technology with suspicion - that is, beyond a point, I don't like this reliance on it. And, since I tend to be good with routes, I love to rely on my own direction sense. Even if I get lost, that's perfectly fine. I have just discovered something new and I feel good about it, in fact! But, to be deceived by technology! No sir!!!
Of course, in today's world where stopping to ask for directions is next to impossible, I also have to succumb and, once in a while, I allow HER to guide me. But if I have an inkling of the destination and the route, I love baffling her by constantly taking alternate routes and hearing the frustrated 'ding' as SHE adjusts to my idiosyncrasies. If I am alone, I even laugh to myself evilly as I challenge the GPS to guess what I would do next.
Oh, she has her revenge too. She will tell me I have reached my destination some few meters away, leaving me lost and driving around in circles. Suddenly she will stop telling me the directions, and since I don't have a stand to view the maps, the rights and lefts can be confusing. Wait, was it this turn, or the next, or have I missed it?
And, 200 meters, 500 meters! I mean, am I driving with a measuring tape!!! Tell me third right or fourth left. What's this with, 'Turn left in 800 meters'? Now I am in panic mode and sometimes I don't even hear the number (my family knows I freeze where numbers are involved) and may just randomly turn somewhere - and blame HER for it!
So, it's an uncomfortable trio whenever I travel with my husband. I sit tight-lipped when SHE takes us through routes that seem longer to me. "Your usual route must be crowded," my hubby reasons with me. 'Hah!' is all I tell myself, skeptical about the GPS's ability to process the information that we have in our head and upset at his undying loyalty to HER.
And then I will launch on a tirade, "SHE led me through some narrow bylanes and difficult terrain."
"You and she have that uneasy relationship," he will respond sagely, as if SHE has a problem because I am the wife!!!
But even with him, SHE often acts up and he thinks it's because of me. "Otherwise, she always takes me through the right route. Only when you are there," he will say grinning.
I had a demo of it today. On our trip from Chennai to Hassan, we were on a familiar route when she suddenly diverted us and soon we were driving through villages with absolutely no traffic but slow going due to the narrow, curving roads. "Can you check on your phone to make sure we are not lost?" my hubby asked. There, see? He also knows SHE is unreliable. And right enough, though there was a 7-minute slower path, she had diverted us to Gudiyattam for no rhyme or reason.
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The unnecessary detour, taking away from a perfectly straight path to venturing into village areas |
Anyway, we continued, and somewhere we hit the highway. All seemed to be going smoothly when
again SHE made us take a left - somewhere 20 minutes from our destination. We did, and yet again entered deserted village areas. I have to grudgingly admit that I was enjoying the views, but my hubby thought SHE was trying to make him dump me in some God forsaken place so that she could have him to HERself.
Of course, he was also admiring a car for its pickup, driven by a lady, and SHE may have felt jealous.
Ten minutes later, lesson having been imparted and ensuring that we had lost sight of that car, we were back on the same highway and reached our destination without further ado.
But the trip just reinforced my view that the GPS is not to be trusted completely and has an agenda of HER own!
Monday, February 17, 2025
Picking up the Pieces
"Yaay!" Sudip pumped his fist in the air and jumped, thrilled with the goal he had scored. His team mates rushed to him and he opened his arms for the celebratory hug. He was still floating and gloating when he entered his house. His father was on the divan in the drawing room. He cursorily looked up at his son and then went back to tuning his tanpura. The silence carried loads of disapproval and Sudip felt it hitting him and sucking out all the jubilation he felt at his defining goal of the day.
Anger surged, matching his father's intense disapprobation, and he stormed into the house. Even in victory, he felt defeat. He could never do anything that his father would look on favorably at. Except one thing, and that didn't inspire him. Why couldn't the old man get that!
His mother was in the bedroom, getting ready for work. "There is breakfast on the table. How did the match go?" she asked.
He threw the bag down and plonked himself heavily on the bed. "We won! I scored the winning goal."
She smiled warmly and touched his head briefly. "Take a bath. You could have told your father that you had a match instead of letting him believe you were going to join him in sadhana?" she asked gently.
He grimaced. "Does he ever hear anything I say?" Sudip complained. "How many years now since I said I have no interest in classical!"
His mother sighed. "Can't you practice for his sake?"
Sudip got up and, taking his bag, he said, "I am not a good singer, ma, I never will be. And he knows that. Why flog a dead horse?" he said and walked out of the room. He felt his heart sinking, as it always did whenever the talk of his singing came up. Mercifully, such days had dwindled. When he was younger, it was every day, every hour. Nowadays, it was only once in a while. He should have been happy. But he dreaded and resented and awaited it.
He felt empty as he showered and sat down for breakfast. Though his father was pottering about, he did not join Sudip. They rarely stayed in the same room ever, barely shared a word unless it was avoidable, and definitely slipped into silence after any conversation about music. Why did his father even bring it up? As if after having given his son the long rope, he still expected Sudip to willingly follow him.
Knowing his father would be hungry, he quickly finished breakfast and went up to his room. He was past crying about this wall between them, but he did wonder sometimes how it had come to this. His father and he had shared such a beautiful relationship. All his memories of his childhood were of his father more than his mother. His father was a career musician, coming from a rich lineage and much appreciated and sought after. His taans and thumris were talk of the town. He had also successfully launched several of his disciples into a music career. Though the world of musicians was more difficult today, many still were passionate about music and balanced their financial needs with an alternative career.
But where Sudip was concerned, his father had met an unbreakable wall. It was not that Sudip couldn't sing. He could hold a note and sing to beat. But he found no interest in exploring beyond. Slowly, this mismatch between musical interests and Sudip's increasing inclination towards sports drove a wedge and here they were - barely on talking terms. Occasionally his father would ask Sudip to do some sadhana in the hope that the gap was enough to make him long for it. But Sudip found no spark of interest and avoided such encounters.
His four years of staying in the hostel to pursue an engineering degree had been a blessing. He had tried hard to find a job anywhere but in his hometown of Delhi. When he got placed in a company in Bangalore, he was relieved and thrilled. "So far away?" his mother had asked. "Just 2 hours as the plane flies," he had replied playfully. His father had asked him nothing.
He was going to leave in a fortnight. He desperately wanted to do something to bridge the gap, but if music was that only bridge, he will have to watch what was left of their relationship crumble and fall. This time, he really did feel like tearing up.
He moved to Bangalore, he grew in his job. He decided to pursue MBA to accelerate his growth and applied abroad after 2 years. Faring well there too, he joined a prestigious consultancy firm and felt proud that he had become a globe-trotter. He managed his conversations with his father from long-distance far better than he had been able to when at home. As he grew older, his family expanded and his parents aged, he felt a strange sense of responsibility towards them. But his attempts to keep them with him in the US failed. Though his mother had retired and father too was barely able to teach or perform due to a persistent cough, they found the life in the US too constricting. They returned to Delhi and preferred its burning summers and severe winters, meeting friends and relatives at whim.
For Sudip, football too had fallen by the wayside. He neither had the time, nor the health. As for music? He listened, mostly to Western pop, some classical, but mostly Bollywood. Only in the safety of his car, when driving long distances alone, he played Hindustani. He listened to his father's CDs. As he neared 40, in retrospection, he wondered if it was fear - fear of rejection, of mediocrity, of not meeting expectations - that had made him averse to singing. In the car, he felt safe to try his voice. He couldn't do the taans, of course, bit he could sing still. Maybe, he had thrown some good opportunity away, he thought with mild regret. But as he cruised through the broad freeways, he couldn't really say he had anything to complain about his current life either.
However, his mind slowly churned questions - about what life would have been like had he but had the courage, if he had chosen a different path. And inevitably the only answer, what will be will be....
He received news of his mother's serious illness and rushed with his wife and 10-year-old son. His mother set eyes on him and then closed them forever. Baba took it stoically but Sudip sensed his helplessness. He knew his father was lost and craved to be there for him. He had abandoned his father once before, not anymore, he thought.
"Come with me to the US," he begged.
"What will I do there?" Came the inevitable reply.
Sighing, Sudip went outside and saw his 10-year-old son playing football in the yard. "Let me show you," he said enthusiastically, glad his son liked sports. As dusk set and the two entered the house, the sound of the tanpura filled the house.
And then, he heard his father start a taan. Despite the age, it rang clear and true. Sudip stood mesmerized, admitting finally that he could never have reached such zenith.
"Is that grandpa?" His son whispered. Sudip nodded.
His son slowly went to his grandfather's room and stood outside, still and as if charmed. When his grandfather finished, he asked, "Can I sing like you, grandpa?"
There was pin drop silence. Slowly Sudip watched his father place the tanpura in its place and turn towards his grandson. He opened his arms and the young boy ran and hugged the old man. His father looked up at him but Sudip's eyes were blurred by tears.
That night, his father said, "Book my tickets. I will also come to the US."
Sudip closed his eyes and nodded, relieved and happy.
With his father at home, life seemed to take a different turn. In the evenings, his young son diligently sat for lessons and showed great promise. His father's health seemed to improve as he enthusiastically guided his young ward into the world of Hindustani music.
But it was when Sudip too joined sometimes and picked up from where he had stopped decades ago that his father seemed to come alive and pull out gems that he seemed to have reserved for his son.
Sudip felt his heartstrings loosen up and a new joy pervade his being. Was it the music or the reviving bond with his father, he could not say. But he felt everything was right with the world now.
Friday, January 31, 2025
The Invisible and Anonymous
Just another woman with no name